Wednesday, June 27, 2007
How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. Annie Dillard
Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that the stuff life is made of. Benjamin Franklin
For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven...
Just this week I was chatting with some friends. Both were complaining of a malady common to many people. Not enough time. Demands of job, demands of family, the stuff of life was interfering in who they wanted to be and what they wanted to accomplish creatively. I've felt that way myself recently. As if life's responsibilities were erasing me.
The answer, of course, when life is pushing you around is to shove back. But we are too nice to shove sometimes. Ask yourself is my (insert creative endeavor) important to *me*? If it is, push!
Carve an hour or two out of the twenty-four at your disposal. Want to write, paint, or quilt? Make an appointment with yourself. Put it on your calendar. Don't let anyone or anything come between you and your appointment. (Common sense note here: sick children always come first. Nothing, no matter how brillant, is worth losing my children or marriage over.)
A speaker, whose name I'm not sure I remember, said at a writer's conference that between her full time job, her marriage, and her children, she thought she never had time to write. Until she realized she could live on less sleep. She began to write between 2am and 4am each morning. Yikes! However, it worked for her. She has a number of novels published.
I've done the four a.m. thing when I've been under a writing deadline. It works. One thing about it is that the house is pretty darn quiet that time of morning. No one interrupts my train of thought.
Daily, mundane activities pile up on us. Schedule those things, too. Clean the kitchen for a set amount of time daily. When that time is up, walk away and do something else. In the past, I've had one day a week that I worried about how the house looked. On that day, I cleaned like a mad woman, music blaring, and mop aswingin'. Lately, I've let the nagging house chores creep into to every part of my life. Starting today, I'm ignoring them except for half days on Friday and Monday.
Learn to enjoy saying no. "No, I can't be there at that time, I have another appointment." And you do. It is right there on your calendar.
Take a knife to your schedule and carve out a piece of time just for you and your creative endeavors. Go ahead, do it now. It will get easier with practice.